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Things start to change as we experience the world and learn that we don’t actually control it, and that sometimes things don’t quite work out the way we would like. In fact often it’s just the opposite! Despite this, we keep on growing and developing and want to try new experiences. We start to take teetering steps to learn how to walk, nervously at first, but we don’t let the general run-of-the-mill falls put us off. And before we know it, we’re not only walking, but running, skipping and jumping and ready to face the world.
But somewhere along the line, something happens, and we get self-conscious and fear being made a fool of or of people ‘finding out that we’re really a fraud’ and not really as good as they think we are. I’m sure most of us have been there, I certainly have, and at times like these we need to find a way to strengthen ourselves to challenge the self-doubt and lapses in confidence.
Overcoming the Little Voice in Your Head
With this dua` Allah will increase your ability to fight against the whisperings of Satan that are putting those thoughts in your head. It’ll help you to challenge the thoughts and turn them into ones that give you the confidence you need to have a go. Instead of holding onto those self-defeating thoughts, you can change them into encouraging thoughts, such as: “I can at least try and give it my best shot”, “I may not be strong in some things, but this is something I reall want to do. I’ve prepared for it and I’m going to do it” or “It’s true, I might not do it well as this is my first time, so if I don’t do it well, it won’t be the end of the world. I’ll be sad, but next time I’ll know more about how to do it better”. There are so many ways you can fight against the whisperings
Trusting Allah with the Outcome
How does that take away the fear? By surrendering your affairs to Allah, you’ve asked Him for what you want, but realise that He will decide what the good end for your affair will be for you. If you put your trust in Allah and realise that whatever outcome He chooses it will be what is best for you, this makes worrying about outcome pointless and lets you just concentrate on doing your best.
Conquering Speaking Fears
min lisani, yafqahu qawli.” (My Lord, expand for me my breast [with assurance] and ease for me my task. And untie the knot from my tongue that they may understand my speech.)
I’m sure that none of us will ever have to speak to an audience that includes someone like Pharaoh, but insha Allah, reciting this dua` before you speak will help to reduce your nervousness, express your ideas clearly and fluently and create the impression you'd hoped to create, of a strong, confident SuperMuslimah!
So, see, we can still call out at any time of night and day asking for our needs to be met, full of confidence that Someone will come to attend to us, as Allah will always answer our dua` in the way that is best for us.
Do you have any dua` that you use to help you increase your confidence?
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