Ramlah Bint Abi Sufyan also known as Ummu Habibah, was married to Ubaid-Allah Ibn Jahsh who was the Prophet's (PBUH) cousin. Ubaida-Allah was among the first of people to accept Islam along with his wife. Fearing her father, Abu Sufyan, who was amongst the most hostile people to the Muslims and Prophet (PBUH), she concealed her faith. When situations began to get worse in Makkah, she emigrated with her husband and a group of Muslims to Abyssinia, a place where the Prophet (PBUH) described the king as just and God-Fearing.
In Abyssinia, Allah blessed Ramlah and Ubaid-Allah with a baby girl by the name of Habibah thus Ramlah became known as Ummu Habibah (Mother of Habibah).
Days passed by and Ummu Habibah felt satisfied with the freedom of religion and living with her small family. Soon however, Ramlah was shocked to find out Ubaid-Allah had abandoned Islam and converted to Christianity. He tried his best to get Ummu Habibah to convert with him yet this strong woman, blessed with unshakable faith and confidence, remained steadfast in her religion. Ubaid-Allah soon passed away and Ramlah spent her days in solitude with her only daughter, Habibah, waiting to see what Allah decreed for her.
The Prophet (PBUH) would ask about the Muslims' situation in Abyssinia and soon heard about Ubaid-Allah and Ramlah. The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) sent a letter to the King Negus who forwarded it with a young servant girl to Ummu Habibah who was greatly suprised to receive such news. The Prophet had made an offer of marriage to Ramlah and if she would agree, she would choose a man among the Muslims in Abysinnia to be her wakil so the ceremony could take place. Ramlah overjoyed to hear this, quickly took off the jewelry she wore and gave it to the servant that had brought her the most joyous news of her life! She chose Khalid Ibn Saeed to be her wakil and celebrated the wedding in the King Negus's palace with the other Muslims while Uthman Ibn Affan held the celebration for the Prophet's blessed marriage. She now gained the honorable nickname of Umm Al-Mumineen (Mother of the Believers).
She joined the Prophet in Medina in the year 7 AH along with the other Muslims that had been in Abyssinia. The Muslims happiness was doubled since they had just had victory in the Battle of Khaybar as well.
When the Quraysh had broken the Treaty of Hudaybiyyah Abu Sufyan traveled to Medina hoping that his daughter, Ramlah, would intercede for him. Upon her father entering her house, she was taken by surprise as she didn't know what to say or do for her husband's most hostile enemy. Abu Sufyan started to sit on a blanket but Ramlah quickly picked up the blanket. Abu Sufyan asked whether the blanket was too good for him or he was too good for this blanket. She answered that the enemy of Islam wasn't to sit on the Prophet's blanket.
Umm Habibah lived with the Prophet (PBUH) for 4 years in Medina before he passed away. At the time of her death Ramlah asked the other Prophet's wives for forgiveness as she layed in her bed and requested for them to pray to Allah to have mercy on her. She died shortly after in 44 AH.
From Ramlah's life we can learn a lot of lessons such as the importance of remaining steadfast and truly believing that Allah has the best of plans. Indeed she was a remarkable lady with outstanding qualities. May Allah have mercy on Ummu Habibah!
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